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Day 14 – Love Takes Delight February 4, 2010

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No matter how much you tell yourself – it just seems that you are no longer in love with your spouse.  He simply can’t do anything right as far as you are concerned.  You’ve tussled with the idea for the last couple of months and it has just come down to the simple fact, the love is gone. You hate the way she nit-picks you about the smallest inconsequential things. The last argument was too much and after much consideration, you’ve decided that you no longer want them as a best friend.  In these situations, someone has determined that a relationship divorce is the clearest choice. Where is the delight?

Mama said “there would be days like this” and she was right.  But I am here to tell you that Father said, “stand firm on your obligation to love and honor one another” and he too was right. It is a shame that we discard relationships so easily.  Toss in the towel when things are not going our way. Just up and abandon the person, the dreams and most importantly the commitment to love the person for life. Sometimes for something that could have easily been resolved if you both sat down and communicated.  It was a choice to be together, so you should want to honor that choice by sticking by your partner.

Start by remembering why you were first delighted to have the person in your life. Choose to think about the positive attributes of your wife. Focus on what made you love him in the first place. Stop criticizing one another and start being more patient with one another’s faults.  We are all flawed in the sight of our Lord and Master.

Today you have a real chance to change your behavior – choose to be delighted by the people whom you love.  Don’t just throw away a relationship and blame it on the other person.  Take ownership of your own emotions and live up to your responsibilities – for it takes two to really want to be one!

A few critical thoughts:
Have a radical change of heart. Make the decision to delight in your spouse no matter how long you have been in the relationship. Welcome your partner back into your heart.

Biblical Verse(s):
Ecclesiastes 9:9 – Enjoy life with the wife you love all the days of your fleeting life.
Proverbs 23:26 – My son, give me your heart and let your eyes keep to my ways…

Resources: The Love Dare by Stephen Kendrick and Alex Kendrick
Online Blogger: The Power of our Beliefs by Robin Easton

Purposefully neglect an activity you would normally do so you can spend quality time with your spouse. Do something he or she would love to do or a project they’d really like to work on. Just be together.

Q: Is it hard to let down your guard and let those back into our lives that have disappointed us?

Have a blessed day, I love you!