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Day 10 – Love is Unconditional January 28, 2010

Posted by poetiscian in Reflection, Unconditional Love.
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The world has become a place of endless boundaries and conditions.  I will only do my best if I am receiving recognition. We will not help her with her project unless she makes the phone call to you know who. He is not allowed at our house unless he spends more time with his wife. I am not going to marry him unless he buys me that 3 carat ring – from Tiffanys. The list goes on and on and on and on.  Just like a Duracell battery.

My point is that we base our love on conditions also known as cause and effect.  Because he brought in the groceries, I will cook him dinner. This is not the type of love that God feels for His children – the agape love which is mentioned throughout the Bible.  It is a self-sacrificing and unconditional love based on feelings and not attributes.  To love your spouse for the things that they do, for how they look and for where they work are all superficial reasons.  I know you are thinking, “Well, I ain’t loving nobody that doesn’t bring anything to the table.” It is this thinking that corrupts so many relationships. Not saying that anyone should carry 100% of the relationship, just suggesting that you love in the same fashion as God loves you.  He asked for nothing in return except we give our hearts to Him.  When we do this, we in turn will have no other choice but to extend ourselves to one another in an unconditional loving fashion.

If her looks fade and the grey hair begins to show around the outer edges, it won’t matter because the love that you feel for her is in your heart.  If he is no longer able to climb on the roof and do the yearly repairs, your love for him will not deteriorate. Your daughter is unable to contribute to the household funds because she has lost her executive position at a major 500 company, you will not turn your back on her, your love is not attached to material things. If you find yourself falling out of love, then maybe you didn’t really have that committed love in the first place.  Love establishes a solid foundation, and it is this foundation that holds your relationship in place when the levees of the world are crumbling down.

A few critical thoughts:
God does not make us prove our love to him. God’s love must be allowed to grow within you. Unconditional love is not determined by the one being loved but the one choosing to love!

Biblical Verse(s):
Romans 5:8 – but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
I John 4:10 – This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins.
Corinthians 13:7 – It [love] bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Resources: The Love Dare by Stephen Kendrick and Alex Kendrick
Featured Bloggist: A Safe Relationship by Harry L. “Justin” Kirk

Do something out of the ordinary today for your spouse—something that proves (to you and to them) that your love is based on your choice and nothing else.

Q: If you removed all the conditions that keep you bound in your relationships, what would that relationship look like?

Have a blessed day, I love you!