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Day 22 – Love is Faithful May 19, 2010

Posted by poetiscian in love, Reflection.
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Be ever so faithfulA (*) friend encouraged me to re-saddle my love horse, so here I am! When our love is rejected, we as humans find it very challenging to keep moving forward in the direction of love.  In order to keep loving the person and/or people who have actively voiced their rejection of our love, takes a love greater than ourselves. We as Christians are supposed to love as God has loved us – no matter what. Now, I do realize that is very hard, and darn near impossible, especially if you are not able to see any light at the end of the love tunnel. However, I pose this to you, remain faithful in your pursuit of love for the partner who has abandoned your love. How you say? Just as God continues to love us through our collage of spiritual mishaps, our unyielding anger towards each other, our daily inability to just offer Him thanks for once again, pulling us from the jaws of death. He gives us underserved love and it is our responsibility to pass it on.

The Bible speaks of Hosea, who married a prostitute named Gomer, and she in turn after many years, returned to the profession that she knew best – lusting after other men.  Now who in the world would expect Hosea to return to this woman? No one would, but God did – He told Hosea to offer her redemption and take her back. (read full story) That is a lesson within itself, for God has redeemed us many times, so who are we not to reach out and offer that same redemption.

If your spouse has gone astray, stop looking outward and begin the soul-searching journey within yourself first.  Seek God for understanding and then pray. Out of love grows faith.  Be faithful in your pursuit for the love of God and your fellow-man. There is power in faithfulness that is immeasurable to anything that the world has to offer. Faith keeps you grounded when it appears that your very foundation is crumbling beneath your feet. Be like Hosea – go and rescue the one whom you’ve confessed to love forever, forgive them for their past transgressions and work on re-building a solid relationship built on faith, patience, integrity and unconditional love. Where would most of us be if God left us on the selling block to be auctioned off to the devil.  I am sure you don’t want to really know the answer.  Go in peace…

A few critical thoughts: God still loves us after rejection. Love is our basis. If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you. God gave undeserved love to you.

Biblical Verse(s):
John 3:16 – For God so loved the world that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who believes in him might not perish but might have eternal life.
Luke 10:27 – He answered, “You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your strength, and with all your mind. And you must love your neighbor as yourself.”

Resources: The Love Dare by Stephen Kendrick and Alex Kendrick
Online Resources: True to be You by Harry L. Kirk

Choose today to be committed to love even if your spouse has lost most of their interest in receiving it.  Say to them today in words similar to these, “i love you.  Period.  I choose to love you even if you don’t love me in return.”

Q: How hard is it for you to tell your spouse that you love them, even when your words appear to fall on deaf ears?

Have a blessed day, I love you!

*** “Thank you Carol, also known lovingly as CeeCee Entertainment”


Day 10 – Love is Unconditional January 28, 2010

Posted by poetiscian in Reflection, Unconditional Love.
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The world has become a place of endless boundaries and conditions.  I will only do my best if I am receiving recognition. We will not help her with her project unless she makes the phone call to you know who. He is not allowed at our house unless he spends more time with his wife. I am not going to marry him unless he buys me that 3 carat ring – from Tiffanys. The list goes on and on and on and on.  Just like a Duracell battery.

My point is that we base our love on conditions also known as cause and effect.  Because he brought in the groceries, I will cook him dinner. This is not the type of love that God feels for His children – the agape love which is mentioned throughout the Bible.  It is a self-sacrificing and unconditional love based on feelings and not attributes.  To love your spouse for the things that they do, for how they look and for where they work are all superficial reasons.  I know you are thinking, “Well, I ain’t loving nobody that doesn’t bring anything to the table.” It is this thinking that corrupts so many relationships. Not saying that anyone should carry 100% of the relationship, just suggesting that you love in the same fashion as God loves you.  He asked for nothing in return except we give our hearts to Him.  When we do this, we in turn will have no other choice but to extend ourselves to one another in an unconditional loving fashion.

If her looks fade and the grey hair begins to show around the outer edges, it won’t matter because the love that you feel for her is in your heart.  If he is no longer able to climb on the roof and do the yearly repairs, your love for him will not deteriorate. Your daughter is unable to contribute to the household funds because she has lost her executive position at a major 500 company, you will not turn your back on her, your love is not attached to material things. If you find yourself falling out of love, then maybe you didn’t really have that committed love in the first place.  Love establishes a solid foundation, and it is this foundation that holds your relationship in place when the levees of the world are crumbling down.

A few critical thoughts:
God does not make us prove our love to him. God’s love must be allowed to grow within you. Unconditional love is not determined by the one being loved but the one choosing to love!

Biblical Verse(s):
Romans 5:8 – but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
I John 4:10 – This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins.
Corinthians 13:7 – It [love] bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Resources: The Love Dare by Stephen Kendrick and Alex Kendrick
Featured Bloggist: A Safe Relationship by Harry L. “Justin” Kirk

Do something out of the ordinary today for your spouse—something that proves (to you and to them) that your love is based on your choice and nothing else.

Q: If you removed all the conditions that keep you bound in your relationships, what would that relationship look like?

Have a blessed day, I love you!

Jack and Jill From my Perspective… January 24, 2010

Posted by poetiscian in love, Reflection.
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Jack and Jill went up the hill to fetch a pail of water, Jack fell down and broke his crown and Jill came tumbling after.  It is amazing how a simple grammar school rhyme can have such an eloquently hidden message.  If only the true meaning associated with Jack and Jill was discovered during adolescence. This is a rhyme about relationships…

No matter if you replace Jack with Jennifer or Jill with John, or leave as is – the message is still the same.  When one partner falls in a relationship, the other is sure to follow.  How did I get that from such a simple school yard chant? Let us analyze this together.

The two are a couple in a relationship of some sort and they start off together, thus Jack and Jill went. The hill is synonymous for everyday life occurences – bills, the kids, the job, in-laws and the list goes on, up a hill.  They are doing what it takes to keep up their household, to fetch a pail of water. One person in the relationship looses their balance – laid off, sickness, family crisis, and such, Jack fell down.  Whatever the material thing that was in his possession is now lost, destroyed, fractured and/or broken, and broke his crown. During this time of crisis, the partner that was following closely also is caught up in the landslide, and finally, and Jill came tumbling afterwards

Whatever happened to the happy couple that started up the hill of life together, merrily swinging their pail?  Did they get up and brush themselves off and regroup to head back up that hill to successfully get that water?  Is Jack still in search of his broken crown and thus had to abandon his relationship?  Maybe Jill climbed that hill by herself only to discover that no water even existed at the top.

I want to believe that Jack and Jill landed at the bottom and realized that they forgot to take the Holy Spirit with them on their journey.  They landed at the bottom on their knees and together they prayed for the right foot holes to make it back to the top of that hill.  They tossed the Bible in the pail so that when they were weak, they could read about how He is a provider during the midnight.  I want to believe that the couple made it back up that hill and once at the top they witnessed another who had also traveled the steep hillside.  There was Boo Peep helping Jesus attend his sheep for she too had some challenges in which she overcame.

I found a Jack and a couple of Jills’ who concurred to the testimony of love during our first five days of the Dare to Love Challenge.

Love is Patient:
Relationships only work and have longevity when one becomes disciplined and mature enough to take SELF out of the center. “Patrick”

Love Shows Kindness:
Sometimes the very people who are not kind to us, are the very people that we need to release from our inner circle. “Poetiscian”

Love is not Selfish:
I was being selfish to my own dreams…As woman we sometimes fail to see how much we sacrifice ourselves for many things. “California”

Love is Thoughtful:
I’ve resolved to say If someone can’t treat you right,love you back, and see your worth LET IT GO. “Walking on Faith”

Love is not Rude:
I really enjoy reading your words of wisdom and encouragement. “Shae”

I hope you are enjoying a very blessed Sunday and that you are keeping our Lord constant in all that you do and say!  I look forward to blogging with you tomorrow as we continue our 40-Day Challenge by Daring to Love.

I love You (unconditionally).

Welcome! January 17, 2010

Posted by poetiscian in Irritability, Kindness, love, Patience, Reflection, Rudeness, Selfishness, Thoughtfulness.
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This is my first attempt at blogging. At 6am (CST), I decided that I needed to create my own little space in the world, outside of facebook. I was inspired to do so based on the movie Julie/Julia. Yes, I do love cooking, however, not enough to simply blog about it. I am fascinated by relationships of all kinds, and I do mean – ALL.

Before we get started, we need to set some rules, I think.  We should always be respectful when sharing.  This is about learning to love unconditionally, so we must be loving.  We can agree to disagree, kiss and write more.  I am learning my way around this thing, so if I fumble, help me up.  I hope to become a better writer, but more importantly, a better person.

Thank you,