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Day 15 – Love is Honorable February 6, 2010

Posted by poetiscian in love.
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Is there anything left in this world that is honorable. A rhetorical question.  Really, what do we really honor? Your answer??? To honor someone or something means to have the highest level of respect and esteem.  Is this true Wedding Bandseveryday in our relationships? With the divorce rate rising far beyond the marriage rate, where has the concept of honor and respect gone – outta da window.  “Holy”matrimony, means entering into a commitment to set this person apart from any other.  This ceremony also means treating your spouse with the highest level of respect possible.  This person should be sacred to you, and no one else should stand on equal footing. It is important that your marriage is valued by everyone. Cheating devalues not only the people involved, but also God. Why? Because marriage is sanctioned by God.

And I know this concept may seem a bit lofty for most to even wrap their brains around, however, it is one of the truest forms of love that we can show our partners. What about the children, my sick parents, my friends, my job, my this, my that.  All of these people are secondary when you enter into a holy and committed relationship with your life-long partner. Think about this – if your foundation (relationship) is sturdy and strong, then it will support anything that placed on it. I say this to the non-believer: If you don’t think that it is possible to share your entire world with another person, then STOP and don’t do it. That is one reason to stay single because you don’t have to be responsible for another person, only yourself.  I digress…

When you love someone, it also means valuing them and what they bring to the relationship table.  What they think should matter to you.  Regardless of the fact that you may not always feel honored nor may you feel that your love reciprocated, you continue to show love and honor within your relationships. Always, the focus is on you and your behavior – and not necessarily about the other person.  You create the atmosphere of love. Just as you do at work, take control of your relationship situations and be the first to show your mate that they are sacred to you and that you value them completely.  Just as God does for us, we too, should do unto our loved ones. Imagine what one day would look like if for one second God decided not to honor and love us – because we made one or one-thousand mistakes.  Don’t know about you – I don’t even want to think about it. Make the choice now to honor every love relationship that is present in your life today!

A few critical thoughts:
Words have powerful meanings. Give your mate your undivided attention. Love honors even when rejected. Marriage should be honored by all.

Biblical Verse(s):
I Peter 3:7 – Live with your wives in an understanding way . . . and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life.
Romans 12:10 – Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor;
Hebrew 13:4 – Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge.

Resources: The Love Dare by Stephen Kendrick and Alex Kendrick
Online Resources: The Bible as inspired by God

Choose a way to show honor and respect to your spouse that is above your normal routine.  It may be holding the door for her.  It might be putting his clothes away for him.  It may be the way you listen and speak in your communication.  Show your mate that he or she is highly esteemed in your eyes.

Q: What does sacrifice mean to you?

Have a blessed day, I love you!



1. Stephanie B - February 6, 2010

Sacrifice to me means that I’m willing to share my mind, body, spirit & soul with another person unconditionally and realizing I demand the same in return if you cant give me all of you then dont step to me. If you truly love someone than there will be sacrifices that you are willing to accept or change just to be in thier space.

2. poetiscian - February 6, 2010

Thanks Stephanie for sharing.

I put forth this notion: when we love unconditionally, it means not expecting “demanding” anything in return. If the person who steps to us can’t give us what we desire, then it is definitely our right to not allow them into our space. The trick is to do it with love and respect. When we set clear boundaries of behavior, people are well aware of our expectations.

SMH 😉 they don’t always follow them, but at least we have set them up. And love does require us to sacrifice some of our own wants and needs. This love thing is a joint venture, and thank you for joining me and sharing your experiences.

Glad to see you back and blogging…

3. Cat - February 9, 2010

Sacrifice is, I believe, a willingness to compromise ones beliefs for the happiness of others. This sacrifice has to be sincere with no conditions. If you want to make your friend/mate happy, sincere sacrifice is a sign a true friend/mate. It could work either way on both parts. Forgiveness towards yourself and or others are also keys elements to this belief called sacrifice. So be prepared to take, receive, or even leave this person or situation.

Dawn - February 10, 2010

Willingness is the key word here Cat. You may want all you want, but until you are willing to put that thought into action, it will not serve the relationship.

If only person is doing all of the compromising, then eventually the relationship will become lope-sided. At some point the non-giving partner has to want to join in – if they don’t – then you have to decide what direction you, the loner, wants to continue in. Just make sure that whatever the decision, it is a healthy one.

Thanks Cat.

4. Rutang - August 25, 2015


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