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Day 12 – Love lets the Other win February 4, 2010

Posted by poetiscian in love.
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As children we are taught to win. The purpose of playing a game is to win. We take on challenges, why? – so that we can win.  Nobody starts off a dare with the thought of walking away a loser.  So, from childhood right into adulthood our goals when facing any type of opposition are to win.  Do you see where I am going with this?  When we firmly believe that winning is the goal, we miss many learning opportunities.  Busy trying to get the prize we often lose sight of the real goal  This happens more often than not within our relationships.

Often times we are so busy defending our opinion that we don’t see our partner’s side of the situation.  We let our stubbornness dictate the direction of the disagreement and thus don’t really resolve anything. Jesus taught us willingness, how to let down our selfish pride and bow to the one’s that we love. He willingly gave up His earthly possession of life, so that we my have eternal life.  This is the same type of respect that we must have in our own relationships.  Of course we may find that our pride is often compromised, however, it is but a small price to pay to show our loved ones how much we value them.  It is our differences that bind us together, for we should not be exact mirrors of one another.  Love truly teaches us how to coöperate with our spouses and not fight against them – it is okay to be humble.  Don’t allow a stubbornness to be the guide, instead lead with your heart!

A few critical thoughts:
Stubbornness is detrimental to a relationship.  Choose to honor the one you love. Relationships need balance.

Biblical Verse(s):
Philippians 2:4 – Do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.
James 3:17 – But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy.

Resources: The Love Dare by Stephen Kendrick and Alex Kendrick

Demonstrate love by willingly choosing to give in to an area of disagreement between you and your spouse. Tell them you are putting their preference first.

Q: How hard is it for you to be humble and allow someone to win a disagreement – even if they are clearly wrong?

Have a blessed day, I love you!



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